The Intentional Dad - 3 Ways to Deepen your Relationship with your Kids
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Hey Reader, Lately I’ve been wanting to build a deeper relationship with my kids. Watch Video Here My oldest is 12 years old, and I am starting to recognize the limited time we have left before he goes off to college. I don’t want this opportunity to pass me by, so I’ve started to become more intentional with connecting. I am putting 3 habits into practice, and I’ve seen some good returns so far! Below are the 3 habits…(Also watch the video) 1) Give more Consistent Hugs (or Headlocks)This simple habit has proven more difficult to put into practice for me. Especially with my 12-year-old son. But I’m committed! Hugs make your kids feel loved, accepted, and appreciated. Physical touch is recognized as one of the 5 love languages, but I rarely hear these love languages applied to children. A hug is a small gesture that can make a big impact in our kid's lives. 2) Teach your Kids a SkillOne of my favorite memories of my dad is when he taught me how to tie a necktie. He was so excited to teach me a new skill and add value to my life. Now, even though my dad has passed away, I am reminded of him when I am preparing for a special event that requires a tie. Teaching skills to our kids allows space quality time and undivided attention. There are hundreds of everyday skills that we have mastered that can be passed on. Let us be intentional about leaving a legacy for our kids. 3) Turn Mealtimes into StorytimeAs a father of 6 children, this habit requires the most planning and intentionality. Competing afternoon schedules and limited energy after work make it difficult to stay consistent. However, when schedules align, mealtimes are a perfect opportunity to connect. I recently bought a book called “Dad, I want to hear your story”. I used the book to share my experiences of my first job as a lifeguard. This led to a 20-minute engaging conversation over dinner with my wife and kids all contributing. Stories forge connections and enables your kids to relate and learn about your past. These are not “groundbreaking” ideas, but these habits can be difficult to put into practice without intentionality. So let's develop a plan to go deeper with our children and make the most of the time left. Which one of these habits appeal to you? Until next time, Andre |