Locked-In Men

Hello Reader, Last week we celebrated our 14th Wedding Anniversary! Shemica and I have known each other since middle school, and we decided to tie the knot a week after my college graduation. At 22 years old I didn’t understand the following about marriage: When I said “I do,”… I wasn’t just committing to love — I was stepping into a lifelong leadership role. Over the years, I’ve learned: Leading your family isn’t about having all the answers — it’s about showing up consistently in every...

Hi Reader, I wanted to share a personal insights about leadership that’s had a big impact on my life—especially as a husband and father. Leading my family better starts with leading myself better. See video here. When I got married at 22, I didn’t fully understand what it meant to lead my family. The only thing on my mind was our pending honeymoon in Jamaica! I lacked clear priorities, values, and direction when it came to my family. Because of that, it was easy for others to pull me in...

Reader, What does a son need from his father? I think sons need DISCIPLINE as they mature into manhood. But discipline isn't only about 𝗽𝘂𝗻𝗶𝘀𝗵𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁, discipline is about 𝗽𝗿𝗲𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻. I believe a father's discipline is effective when these 3 attributes exist. Watch video 1) Vision What type of man do you see your son becoming? What character and values should he possess? Have you communicated this vision to him? My dad started training me at 6 years old to play football because of his vision for...

Reader, Tired of living paycheck to paycheck? Do you want to put your family in a better financial position? Me too. As a child, my parents did the best they could to set me up for success, but conversations about money management were minimal. As a result, I entered adulthood ill-equipped to properly manage my finances. And due to a lack of financial planning, I have much less money in savings than I would like. But I am determined to change that! I believe I'm on the right path. For me,...

Hey Reader, The NFL playoffs are in full swing! Great entertainment so far. But have you considered how football can improve your marriage? Let me explain. Watch the video I played football for 15 years. I began at seven years old and finished my career in college playing for the Naval Academy. I have also been married for almost 14 years. And through my experiences, I've recognized that good football teams have at least 4 characteristics that can improve a marriage. 1) Team Goals Over...

Some decisions go left. Your family needs you to move forward. Reader, What happens when your big ideas don’t turn out as you envisioned? How do you move forward in success? Here is the story of how I did... Several years back we made a decision to relocate our family into a low-income neighborhood to make a difference. It was a risky move. Watch me describe the experience. That decision turned out to produce many negative unforeseen consequences (including thousands of dollars in home...

Hey Reader, Lately I’ve been wanting to build a deeper relationship with my kids. Watch Video Here My oldest is 12 years old, and I am starting to recognize the limited time we have left before he goes off to college. I don’t want this opportunity to pass me by, so I’ve started to become more intentional with connecting. I am putting 3 habits into practice, and I’ve seen some good returns so far! Below are the 3 habits…(Also watch the video) 1) Give more Consistent Hugs (or Headlocks) This...

Hey, Do you believe that there is value in showing vulnerability? I believe so based on personal experience. However, men usually struggle to open up and show vulnerability. (Watch my video on this topic) Locking your emotions away becomes a self-defense mechanism. On the positive side, shielding personal feelings protects men from being hurt by others. On the negative side... Men are more stressed - Because negative emotions stay bottled up with no healthy outlet. Men feel alone - Because...

Morning! This weekend we withdrew from all other duties and attended our first marriage conference. Sometimes marriage can take a backseat to other responsibilities (kids, job, school, etc). Life gets busy. Schedules get hectic. And the relationship begins to become stagnant. Our marriage was not in trouble but we did desire to grow. To be better. It was our first time, so we didn't know what to expect. Would the experience feel awkward? Depressing? Turned out to be a fun environment with...