Reader,
What does a son need from his father?
I think sons need DISCIPLINE as they mature into manhood.
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I believe a father's discipline is effective when these 3 attributes exist. Watch videoโ
1) Vision
What type of man do you see your son becoming? What character and values should he possess? Have you communicated this vision to him?
My dad started training me at 6 years old to play football because of his vision for me. And it worked, because I eventually played football in college!
Vision is powerful because it gives your son something to aspire to.
Without vision and purpose, our sons may end up "lost", not knowing how to spend their time, energy, and talents.
Fathers can prepare sons to live for cause bigger than themselves through the vision they provide.
2) Accountability
Accountability is holding our sons to a standard. It's holding them responsible for their words, actions, and behaviors. Fathers are well equipped to hold sons accountable, especially as boys age and mom has less influence from a discipline perspective.
Accountability is about applying consequences and allowing "natural consequences" to happen when they make errant decisions. If we save our sons from the consequences of their actions, how will they learn?
Early accountability can prepare sons for the real world where the safety net is removed, and consequences become more real and severe.
3) Relationship
Dad I know you love me, but do you like me? Do you spend quality time with me? Rules without relationship can lead to rebellion.
As boys age, fathers can no longer depend on force to lead, but will require permission to guide their sons. Fathers can talk, but is the son listening? Make sure you are spending adequate quality time with your son so that he will be open to receive your wisdom and guidance as he ages.
Prepare your son to become a man by have a strong relationship. Prepare him by being someone he knows and trusts to give him sound advice and guidance as he navigates adulthood.
Can you see these 3 attributes in the way you discipline your son? Fathers we do this!
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Feel free to respond to this email. Would like to hear your thoughts and feedback!
Until next time,
Andre
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